Ezra Miller plays a gay teenager in “The Perks of Being a Wallflower,” the upcoming film adaptation of Stephen Chbosky’s 1999 novel about those awkward, misfit teenage years, but in real life, his sexuality is a little less defined.
“I’m queer,” he tells Out Magazine in a new interview about the pivotal role the book played in his life. “I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular. I’ve been trying to figure out relationships, you know?”
He continues: “I don’t know if it’s responsible for kids of my age to be so aggressively pursuing monogamous binds, because I don’t think we’re ready for them. The romanticism within our culture dictates that that’s what you’re supposed to be looking for. Then [when] we find what we think is love — even if it is love — we do not yet have the tools. I do feel that it’s possible to be at this age unintentionally hurtful, just by being irresponsible — which is fine. I’m super down with being irresponsible. I’m just trying to make sure my lack of responsibility no longer hurts people. That’s where I’m at in the boyfriend/girlfriend/zefriend type of question.”
Miller says that the sensitive way “Perks” handles teenage sexuality (and those tough adolescent years in general) really helped him pull through his own high school experience, and he hopes the movie can do the same for a new generation of teenagers.